Let me tell you Guys something. . .

Women are smart. Women are to be treasured, not treated like meat or mules — not specifying myself this time, but this post does spawn from something that happened to me today. The expression “a woman’s intuition” is not figurative, but literal, and it is not something you should underestimate.

When you approach a lady, and I do mean lady and not tramp, doing something that makes you look dorky or maybe even a little corny is absolutely okay! In my opinion, it makes you look more open to accepting the many traits that make us look dorky. Most women pull their strongest and most bubbly personalities when others around them seem nervous, including myself.

But something that is too staged or too practiced, like a terrible pick-up line, or sleazy size-up from across the room, is not going to impress her; in fact, it would probably turn a lady off. It will make her suspicious, so — Honest to God — be yourself, even if yourself isn’t the coolest, or most attractive person they could be. Honesty can never make a bad first impression, so try a little of that next time you’re planning on hitting on a girl in a crude or overtly sexual manner.

A guy so very ignorant to this concept tried to pick me up this morning while I was working my 7-4pm shift at our local breakfast joint. He actually came back to the counter and asked for a job application just so he could talk to me, and in the same sentence he asked if he could have my Name, Number for a “reference” on the application. Instantly, of course, I knew the whole thing was bullshit. I almost asked for the application back so we wouldn’t just waste the paper, but I thought that might give the wrong impression to him. Despite the fact that he wasn’t my type, looked way too old for me, and had a glaze to his eyes that signaled a little trouble to me, I thought if he was brave enough to ask for my number, that maybe I should give him a shot. It is not every day that I’m approached like this. Also, if someone has the kahones to ask, that has to say something positive about their personality, right?

Well our text conversation continued through the day; I learned that his name was Zac, that he was 24 (a whole 6 years jump from my own age), and that he thought I was beautiful despite the horrible get up I must wear to work. At first, I was so impressed with his bluntness and how sincere he seemed, that I was gladly responding to him. But through the few hours that passed next, his words became less cute, and more vulgar. Asking for pictures of me that I didn’t have and would never take (or give for that matter), talking about different parts of my anatomy he really shouldn’t mention  unless he wanted to seem sleazy, and going so far as to send me pictures of his own anatomy. Deleted. Erased. Gone, thank God.

And what did this chameleon male say when I promptly told him I was not that type of girl, and that I was interested in someone else? He said, word-for-word, “I’m not tryin to marry you and I saw it in your eyes you wanted me.” If I have a single guy reader, anywhere out there in the world, please read the following sentence carefully and accept it into your heart: If you want to hear a girl laugh, tell her what she’s thinking.  Because I promise you that no matter how sensitive you are, you’re probably way off in left field.

Not only was he wrong, but he also raised a giant red flag with that sentence and a few following this statement, which led to him being ignored completely. His name has been changed to “That Dick Zac Guy” in my phone, and if it is even possible I am now more cautious over what kind of guy I’ll look at twice.

So, again: women are smart, and they are to be treasured. If you have one, grab her and hold her close; if you don’t have one, keep looking. She’s looking for you too, actively.

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Hallelujah; Sunday February 08, 2009

Today could only have been more perfect if I had had someone to share it with. 🙂

“Your call
comes like the morning breeze
you spread
your wings and cover me

Underneath your shadow
I will hide away
it’s there I’ve found your shelter
and there I’d like to stay

Refuge
you are my refuge
And when the world shakes, and nothing stands
I will hold onto your hand
Refuge.

It was a touching gospel song that I used to adore and, yes, still cry over, that we sung at in the youth group I was in when I lived in Cobb County. The church was “Mount Paran Church of God” in Marietta, the youth group was The Shift; our motto: We’re not changing directions, just shifting gears. I’ve since moved and separated from them, and I miss all of them terribly. I have never been around a group of people that loved me so much, and loved God so much — I think my subconscious fears that I never will again. I wish I could just go back in time and tell myself “HEY, LOOK AT WHAT YOU HAVE! Hold onto it!“, but back then I was too young, and too caught up in a boy crush (he was also in our group) to notice their support. My most honest, God-loving&fearing friend, the best I’ve ever had, I let slip through my fingers because I thought she was too “clingy“. Now I wish somebody was clingy like that, that someone cared enough about me to want to save me and talk with me, to help me with my future, and my soul, as much as she did. Screw what everyone else thinks about the two of us. Now she’s off doing mission trips in Uruguay..and I’m making terrible decisions, unclear about my future at all.

Sorry, I’ve been holding that back for a little while. I just wish someone would TALK TO ME. I listen, I participate — but why does everyone just turn away from me so much. They find relationships, or crushes, or get depressed over lost loves, or they move away, and I’m left by myself.

Now I’ve heard there was a secret chord
That David played, and it pleased the Lord
But you don’t really care for music, do you?
It goes like this
The fourth, the fifth
The minor fall, the major lift
The baffled king composing Hallelujah
Hallelujah
Hallelujah
Hallelujah
Hallelu-jah

Your faith was strong but you needed proof
You saw her bathing on the roof
Her beauty and the moonlight overthrew you
She tied you
To a kitchen chair
She broke your throne, and she cut your hair
And from your lips she drew the Hallelujah

Hallelujah, Hallelujah
Hallelujah, Hallelu-jah

Baby I have been here before
I know this room, I’ve walked this floor
I used to live alone before I knew you.
I’ve seen your flag on the marble arch
Love is not a victory march
It’s a cold and it’s a broken Hallelujah

Hallelujah, Hallelujah
Hallelujah, Hallelu-jah

There was a time you let me know
What’s really going on below
But now you never show that to me, do you?
And remember when I moved in you
The holy dove was moving too
And every breath we drew was Hallelujah

Hallelujah, Hallelujah
Hallelujah, Hallelu-jah

Maybe there’s a God above
But all I’ve ever learned from love
Was how to shoot somebody who outdrew you

And it’s not a cry, you hear at night
It’s not somebody, whose seen the light
It’s a cold and it’s a broken Hallelujah

Hallelujah, Hallelujah
Hallelujah, Hallelujah
Hallelujah, Hallelujah
Hallelujah, Hallelujah
Hallelujah, Hallelujah
Hallelujah, Hallelujah
Hallelujah, Hallelujah
Hallelujah, Hallelujah
Hallelu–jah

Sunday 11, 2009

“Blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD and has made the LORD his hope and confidence.” – Jeremiah 17:7

“The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases, his mercies never come to an end; they are new ever morning.” Lamentations 3:22-23

“It is done unto you as you belive.” Matthew 9:29

“The name of the LORD is a strong tower; the righteous run to it and are safe.” – Book Unknown.

“Don’t you know that you yourselves are God’s temple and that God’s spirit lives in you?”1 Corithians 3:16

“The LORD is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer, my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge. He is my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold. I call to the LORD, who is worthy of praise, and I am saved from my enemies. The cords of death entangled me; the torrents of destruction overwhelmed me; the snares of death confronted me. In my distress I called to the LORD; I cried to my God for help. From his temple he heard my voice; my cry before him, into his ears.” Psalm 18:2-6

 

I love scripture :]
Yes — sometimes it can get confusing — but sometimes it is so direct and straightforward that it might as well be slapping in your face.

I have one message that a preacher, Joel Osteen, spoke this morning in his ministries. He said, “If the plan you had written did not work, if something didn’t happen the way you’d planned it, forget it. Focus on the bigger plan that the LORD has for you. That doesn’t mean you give up on your plan, you rise up and shine, and take a different path (even if it is on the same subject or in the same direction). God will never fail you, he will take you there another way.”

Sunday, January 04, 2009

 
Be content with what you have, for God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” So say with confidence, “The LORD is my helper; I will not be afraid.” – Hebrews 13:5,6

Love is patient, love is kind, love does not insist on it’s own way. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Happy is the man who finds wisdom and understanding for the gain from it is better than gain from silver and profit better than gold.” – Proverbs 3:13,14

He will fill your mouth with laughter and your lips with shouts of joy” – Job 8:21

…say to those with fearful hearts, ‘Be strong, do not fear; your God will come, he will come with vengeance; with divine retribution he will come to save you.”Isaiah 35:4

The last quote in this post is known to me as my morning prayer. It’s something I speak to myself this morning, and will continue to, to start my day off in the right way. It will help me keep positive throughout the day, to remember my values and inhibitions, so that I may not sin further against God.

I am going to start doing this. Every Sunday, I will have a few lines of scripture to share with you all — “why?”, you ask? Because there’s nothing wrong with scripture. You may believe what you will, and I will neither push my faith on you, nor force you to pay tribute to it with me; I only ask that you respect my values, and if you agree with me, that is for the better.

Sometimes I might have as many quotations as I had this morning, or some days I might just have one, or two. I find these quotes in the bible, or online that have been taken from the bible; and I share with you the ones that really make an impact on me, or that I think need to be heard.
Job 8:21, in one of the above quotes, says that “He will fill your mouth with laughter and your lips with shouts of joy”. I think everyone needs to feel joy and express laughter and smiles every day of their life. I know I do, especially with my life — you never know just when something is going to change, for the worse or the better, and maybe that’s what I’m worried about.

Good morning, & Good Sunday =)

 

Give ear to my words, O LORD, consider my meditation. Hearken unto the voice of my cry, my King, and my God: for unto thee will I pray. My voice shalt thou hear in the morning, O LORD; in the morning will I direct my prayer unto thee, and will look up. For thou are not a God that hath pleasure in wickedness: neither shall evil dwell with thee. The foolish shall not stand in thy sight: thou hatest all workers of iniquity. Thou shalt destroy them that speak leasing: the LORD will abhor the bloody and deceitful man. But as for me, I will come into thy house in the multitude of thy mercy: and in thy fear will I worship toward thy holy temple. Lead me, O LORD, in thy righteousness because of mine enemies; make thy way straight before my face. For there is no faithfulness in their mouth; their inward part is very wickedness; their throat is an open sepulchre; they flatter with their tongue. Destroy thou them, O God; let them fall by their own counsels; cast them out in the multitude of their transgressions; for they have rebelled against thee. But let all those that put their trust in thee rejoice: let them ever shout for joy, because thou defendest them: let them also that love thy name be joyful in thee. For thou, LORD, wilt bless the righteous; with favour wilt thou compass him as with a shield. ” – Psalm 5:1-12